Adultfriendfinder.com NSFW in Florida
Posted By Jeff on February 12, 2009
Not surprisingly, “cubancigar107″ is nowhere to be found on Adultfriendfinder.com today. That was allegedly the AFF user name of former Florida Republican State Rep. Gus Barreiro of Miami Beach, who was fired from his job at the state Department of Juvenile Justice in January. Investigators said yesterday that they found adult pornographic images on his state-owned laptop.
Barreiro says he was set up, that his name had been “slandered” and that the department has a “documented history of tampering with evidence.” …
Fired Florida ex-lawmaker denies accessing porn
The department released a 13-page report on the contents of former state Rep. Gus Barreiro’s laptop on Wednesday. The report says the computer was used to view 42 Web pages containing “sexually explicit, sexually provocative and other content.”
Whether he was framed or not, his troubles made me think back on how many people I’ve known who couldn’t resist checking their AFF messages at work … or about how many millions of people a day probably log onto dating or social networking sites when they’re at work.
Should they all be fired, too?
AFF is a dating and sexual networking site that admittedly *looks* like a porn site. Should someone lose their job for checking personal messages for a few minutes while at work?
I’m thinking “No.”
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"Into Temptation" has been a forum about evolving social-sexual networks and how they have changed and are changing lives. In other words, we talk about dating and sex. 
I was at a bloggers’ meeting at the Berkman Center for the Internet and Society, and we were reflecting on the fact that pretty soon there will be no one left to hire or elect who A) hadn’t done something regrettable and B) have evidence of those things on Facebook or MySpace.
David Weinberger, who’s written a couple of good books on the Web, said something that stuck with me: “A world of transparency must be a world of forgiveness.”
I’m not sure our society is going to become less censorious about sex in my lifetime, but in my kids’? Probably. Transparency isn’t going away, and eventually we’ll become jaded about what we see.
I’m glad to hear the Berkman Center is still provoking and gathering thought. I recall a conference I went to there … must have been ten years ago. Jonathan Zittrain looked like a teen-ager to me.
I think as a whole society has become less censorious about sex in our lifetime. But it has happened gradually and episodes of censoriousness tend to be noisy and publicized so the perception is … that there is no forward motion. But there is and the evidence is all around us. The Internet, social-sexual networking, increased acceptance of GLBT lifestyles … are results of both legal victories and, more importantly, changing mores. I’d argue that we’re headed in the right direction.
I love the Weiberger quote, thanks for that.
You know, J, you make an excellent point, and I thank the stars that homophobia appears to be on the losing side of history. Maybe this points to the importance of political movements in changing the legal playing field and public opinion? I think in an earlier post you made an argument that swinging was now more controversial than homosexuality. I have a hard time envisioning nonmonogamous couples marching (although there was the Poly Pride event in NYC not too long ago, but it seems to me that swinging and poly are still relatively distinct cultures).
Swingers, for the most part, don’t want their families, friends, employers or neighbors to know about their sexual proclivities. They are afraid of being ostracized, fired, branded as perverts, even arrested. You’ll find poly groups and organizations in major cities … but not so much for swinging, where the main “spokespeople” tend to be people who have some commercial interest … clubs, tours, parties, websites, etc.
In my experience, swingers are happy to talk about what they do and proud of the choices they make and the way they lead their lives.But they don’t want anyone to know what their names are.
Remind you of GLBTs in … the ’70s? Me, too.