Posted By Jeff on May 20, 2009
Biological anthropologist Helen Fisher says so.
… And I’ve also come to think that it’s one of three, basically different brain systems that evolved from mating and reproduction. One is the sex drive: the craving for sexual gratification. W.H. Auden called it an “intolerable neural itch,” and indeed, that’s what it is. It keeps bothering you a little bit, like being hungry. The second of these three brain systems is romantic love: that elation, obsession of early love. And the third brain system is attachment: that sense of calm and security you can feel for a long-term partner.
Fascinating stuff. More for the ever-expanding reading list …
The implication, of course, is that it’s difficult to keep all three systems happy at the same time.