Not-So-Happily Ever After
Posted By jss on June 24, 2009
Woman’s Day and AOL Living survey 35,000 married women; results are in the July issue of the magazine, or online here. The Today Show and MSNBC find it “shocking” that:
- 72 percent of those women surveyed have considered leaving their husband at some point. 57 percent sometimes regret their choice of spouse but 71 percent expect to be married to the same person for the duration;
- When asked about their sex life, more than half are bored in bed or choose the sarcastic “What sex life?” answer. 18 percent responded that it was “pleasant enough,” which sounds pretty grim, really. Just 10 percent said “amazing.” 79 percent want to have sex more often;
- Flirting is the same as cheating, to 60 percent. Two thirds trust their husbands. A third do not.
First of all, let’s point out that this does not seem to be what anyone would consider a scientific survey. Though I haven’t seen the methodology, there is no way a scientific survey would have needed or wanted 35,000 respondents. So these women were probably self selected … from among Woman’s Day readers. And self-selected survey takers are probably more likely to be the ones who are venting.
Still, I’m surprised in entirely different ways than the traditional media is shocked. I would have thought that almost every married person had thought about leaving, at some time or another.
And I’m wondering if the 10 percent who say they have amazing sex lives are part of the group who have affairs or are swingers.
What do you think?
"Into Temptation" is a usually-but-not-always safe-for-work forum about evolving social-sexual networks and how they have changed and are changing lives. It will also loosely chronicle the research, writing and publication, I hope in 2011, of a book by the same name.
Yep this is why I’m not getting married. Nothing kills a relationship like moving in together. I love having a separate house from my partner, my own space. We don’t take each other for granted; we have to make special plans to see each other, so every time is special.
And I love not cleaning his bathroom or doing his laundry. Unless we’re playing a weird BDSM game and I’m naked except for a collar.